The modus operandi for emotional blackmailers can vary, but some common tactics they may use include:

  • Identifying vulnerabilities: The emotional blackmailer may try to identify the other person's weaknesses or vulnerabilities, such as a fear of abandonment or a desire for approval.
  • Making demands: Once they have identified the other person's vulnerabilities, the emotional blackmailer may make unreasonable demands or expectations. They may use guilt, shame, or threats to get the other person to comply.
  • Creating a sense of obligation: The emotional blackmailer may try to create a sense of obligation in the other person by reminding them of past favors or sacrifices, or by implying that the other person owes them something.
  • Using emotional manipulation: The emotional blackmailer may use emotional manipulation tactics such as gaslighting, where they try to make the other person doubt their own perceptions or memories, or triangulation, where they involve a third party to create tension or jealousy.
  • Punishing non-compliance: If the other person doesn't comply with their demands, the emotional blackmailer may punish them by withdrawing affection, giving the silent treatment, or making threats.

It's important to recognize emotional blackmail and set boundaries to protect yourself. This may involve saying no, communicating your needs and feelings clearly, or seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. Remember that you have the right to make your own decisions and live your life according to your own values and priorities.